Why Can’t We Be Friends?

Published on Oct 14th, 2015 by Pastor Ed Hlad | 0
Why Can't We Be Friends?

Why Can’t We Be Friends?

Jennifer Connell, 54, is suing her 12-year-old nephew for breaking her wrist when he jumped into her arms on his 8th birthday.  Sean Tarala was playing with his bike he had just received for his birthday when his Aunt Jen arrived at the party.  He was so excited to see her that he dropped his bike, ran to his aunt, and jumped into her arms.  They both fell to the ground in a loving heap.  Apparently, Aunt Jen broke her wrist and is now, four years later, suing her nephew because she believes that an 8-year-old boy should have known better.  She is suing him for $127,000.00.  Listen to these two unbelievable quotes from the newspaper article:  “I was at a party recently and it was difficult to hold my hors d’oeuvres plate” and “Sean, whose mother died last year, appeared confused as he sat with his father…”  Is that not unbelievable?  Now the courts showed some common sense and denied her claim but the audacity and insensitivity of the whole thing is so revealing of our society.  If this were just an isolated case we might just dismiss it as one crazy woman but there are tons of these kinds of lawsuits out there.  One surfer sued another because he stole the wave meant for him.  A family sues Sea World because their son hid until after closing and fulfilled his lifelong dream of swimming with a killer whale.  The whale killed their son and they sued because there should have been warning signs stating that the whale might kill people and Sea World sold nice stuffed animals portraying the whale as cute and cuddly.  The list goes on and on.  Many of these kinds of lawsuits may never make it to court but what it says about society is very revealing.  Of the many lessons we learn, one is that we have lost our ability to solve problems among ourselves.  It is far easier to sue someone (and hope for a big payday) than it is to try to solve our problems ourselves.  Why spend all that emotional energy trying to get along when we can simply have a judge decide for us?

Sometimes the church is not much better.  I have read of church splits that have occurred because a child received a bigger piece of roast beef than a Deacon did, a split over a hundred year old piano bench, and a split over whether the offering should be taken before or after the message.  The number one reason most people give for leaving a church?  They were offended.  Maybe we need to step back and learn how to get along again?  Here are a few verses to help us begin to be the peacemakers that God has intended us to be.

When someone is evil to us:  Rom 12:17-21; I Peter 2:21-23; I Peter 3:8, 9

When someone sins against us:  Matt 18:15-17; I Cor 6:1-8; I Pet 4:8; Prov 17:9

When there is a problem between us:  Matt 5:23, 24

When we communicate with each other:  Eph 4:15, 25-32; Prov 18:13; Prov 15:23; Prov 26:17, 20

When a brother is struggling with a sin:  Gal 6:1-5


  1. Be honest – Ephesians 4:15,25
  2. Keep current – Ephesians 4:26,27


  • Do I have the facts right? Prov 18:13
  • Should love hide it? Is it sinful or will it hinder growth? I Pet 4:8
  • Is my timing right? Prov 15:23b
  • Is my attitude right? Am I trying to help the other person? Eph 4:15
  • Are my words loving? Eph 4:15
  • Have I asked for God’s help? Prov 3:5b
  1. Attack the problem and not the person – Ephesians 4:29,30
  2. Act, don’t react – Ephesians 4:31,32

Let’s do our best to remember what God encouraged us to do through Paul:  “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”  Rom 12:18











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