Pretending

Published on Jul 13th, 2016 by Pastor Ed Hlad | 0
Pretending

Pretending

The Bible is so amazing. It speaks so fully to our lives and who we are. It gives us the words of life and introduces us to the life giver. It is the only book that allows us to relax and let it speak to us. We do not need to worry whether the facts are true or if the advice is good. It is the holy word of God. Proverbs 13:7 is just one example of how God speaks to our lives. “One pretends to be rich, yet has nothing; another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.” There is no real moral lesson that seems apparent here. No judgment pronounced. I suppose we are to come to the conclusion that this kind of pretending is wrong but the verse does not say that. It just comes across as an observation of people and it is spot on. It is a kind of truth that continues to blossom the more you think about it.

We certainly cannot live our lives as a complete open book before people. We will be destroyed. We all pretend to be something we are not. I think that is part of what Galatians 6 means when it says that we need to “bear our own load”. When someone casually asks how we are doing that is not the time to go into a discourse about our financial woes, our new rash, or the melancholy morning we just had. We respond with such words as, “fine,” or “ok,” or “getting by.” Is this pretending? I suppose in some ways it is but it is also a bearing of our own load. It is pretty unfair to dump our load on the first person who simply looks our way. But there is also something very wrong with living a life of pretending that tries to continually be someone we are not. What drives us to always desire to be somebody different than what we are? We may understand why the poor person wants to act like he is rich, but the rich person acting as if he is poor begins to reveal our hearts. We are dissatisfied with who we are and so we often live our lives pretending to be something we are not.

What is kind of interesting about this is that those who have struggled with this in life often get to the point where they get angry and then they boldly declare, “I don’t care what anybody thinks or cares anymore. I am just going to be myself and if people don’t like it then that is their problem.” They seem to say that over and over again. I often wonder if it is because they are trying to convince me or convince themselves? I love the Apostle Paul when he says, “…it is a very small thing that I should be judged by you” (I Cor. 4:3). Paul seemed to be the kind of guy who never pretended to be anybody but who he was. But even he had to admit that he still cared just a little about what people thought. It was a small thing but it was still a thing.

Here is where my meditating on this verse took me (I would love to hear where it took you). The dissatisfaction that we have in who we are is a great gift from God. It is something that helps us understand that in many ways we just are not measuring up. That we need help. This dissatisfaction is used by God to help us find satisfaction in him. When we give our lives to Christ we are made complete in Christ. We become the children of God and joint heirs with Jesus Christ. We then find satisfaction in who we are and can, for the first time in our lives, stop pretending to be something that we are not. We are now truly rich in Christ and we can live joyfully in those riches.

I had a great time of meditating on this verse this morning. I hope you will be able to take the time to do the same today.

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